Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

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If you’re in this boat, you’ll like this book and all the stories the author tells in it – not just his own, but other people that he works with. I have also given more than I take and have said “yes” to things I really wanted to say “no” to just to appease another person and be helpful. They simply blurb stories mid way and start talking with enthusiasm about absolutely none-sense with no censorship nor concern about what you MIGHT think of them or their story!

I can honestly say without a doubt, that I am now the MOST assertive person I know, and I mean that with all the honesty in my heart. I saw that clients who were trying the hardest to be nice people also felt the most anxious, guilty, and frustrated.

You can choose to ignore it but that doesn’t make you bold and authentic; it makes you a bit of a jerk. I like long books when there is enough good content, but this becomes very repetitive, and there are way too many long-winded personal stories and plugs for his other books and programs. i just kept having realization after realization and even though i'm still trying to process everything, i feel so incredibly inspired and invigorated.

You’ll also see that being in healthy relationships with others is not at all like walking on a tightrope. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. Gazipura frequently meanders around a topic for pages upon pages without reaching anything resembling a conclusion. After being stuck in shyness and social anxiety himself for almost 10 years, he became determined to find a way to social freedom. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the boldest, expressive, authentic version of you.By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. For most of my life, I had been "conditioned" to be the "nice guy," always thinking it was better to just avoid conflicts whenever possible. Reading Letters From A Stoic by Seneca, parallel to Not Nice, as I did, certainly didn't make things easier. A lot of details on our conditioning to become nice and how the environmental pressures start taking us to not be ourselves under the notion of you are not nice! Not the puff-your-out-chest fake kind of confidence; I’m talking about the truly grounded and magnetic kind of confidence .

I might not have agreed with Aziz Gazipura on everything, but I learned a lot, and for that, I'm grateful.i didn't realize until getting about halfway through this book that so much of my internal rulebook is full of lies. At the end of the book there is a 30 day boot camp that give you a small daily task to BREAK FREE of your NICE PROGRAMMING. I wanted to read a book that would help me relax a little bit better when I was tending to work I do for my businesses.