Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. I tell Zach that I enjoyed the irreverent sexiness and authenticity of Boyslut, but some issues nag at me as a 79-year-old woman who came of age sexually in a very different and more restrictive time. The author reads, and I really appreciated his absolute refusal to abandon his embrace of being a slut. It offers great insight on how to deal with peoples relationship with porn, hook up apps and your personal relationships, and how to keep them separate from one another.

He has a unique ability to balance humor with a deep appreciation for the vulnerability and humanity of his subjects.

Like, I knew about Grindr as a gay hook up app, but I didn't really realize the practical application of sex at your door in 9 minutes, over in 9 minutes).

I agree with most of the reviews on here about the author's refusal to wear condoms regardless of his numerous STIs. Boyslut is a memoir-manifesto in which Zane articulates that, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit.As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. Having sex helped me unpack the structural systems that idealise an unhealthy masculinity, promote queerphobia, and perpetuate sex-negativity. Author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto (2023), Zach comes across as articulate, intense, sassy, and sexy. Nonbinary people transcend gender stereotypes, so there’s no place for them in conversations among those who perpetuate the idea that “men are from Mars” and “women are from Venus.

It invites you to say "hang on, that's a bit much" because then you've fallen into the very same societal trap of judging sex when, really, it's all up to an individual in how they wish to discuss it. Firstly, I’m a huge proponent of reclaiming language meant to be negative and using it in empowering ways! There’s also lots of intriguing observations around love and sex, where they intersect, where they diverge, and the complicated navigation and exploration of sexual attraction, romance, and intimacy in the LGBTQ+ community. That circumstance is so unbelievably broad and to insist that someone “faked” a part of their journey to finding their true identity, rather than that identifying as bisexual at that time just because that’s what they truly felt at that stage in their life, is so unbelievably dangerous and frankly insulting to all involved. I want to scream, ‘I’ve had sex with more men than anyone in here, and my girlfriend has fucked more women than any lesbian in here!

All in all, a worthy read for anyone interested in the ways sex affects our lives, our society, and our relationship with each other (all the ways), but especially if you like you some dude-on-dude action.

In contrast, when discussing the judgment he feels about his decision to have unprotected sex, he spends pages explaining why the AIDS epidemic, gay bashing, and a variety of other historical factors justify his decision. I must emphasize that this book is written from authors point of view and experiences and how his thoughts and events of his life have formed his opinions and lifestyle. Though I loved the entire book, telling people who struggle with their mental health that they shouldn’t burden their loved ones with it is just so wrong. He has anecdotes from his youth, teens and young adulthood, but given that he can't be much older than his early thirties, a memoir does seem a little, uh, preemptive. We recently featured a very popular interview with Zachary on our Instagram Live, in which he opened up about his sexual experiences, exploring polyamory, orgies, anonymous encounters and his thoughts on how to lead a fulfilling sex life in a long-term relationship, not to mention bi-visibility and dismantling toxic masculinity.When you have a woman around your arm, you’re seen as one of those awful straight people co-opting that space. I respect that Queer Majority has a fucking opinion and goes against the grain in a way I really appreciate. This allows us to start talking openly about our desires with our partners, which leads to happier, healthier, and more satisfying relationships.